Definitely not the asshole. Even from the very beginning, you were dealing with a person who has so little empathy and human decency that he would weaponize illness in the most twisted way – for fake-pity and fake-sympathy. I am sorry your instincts were right all along, and I am horrified to hear that she not only lied about having cancer but ruined your dad financially and emotionally as well.
This is a level of betrayal that is hard to even comprehend. It should not have been your fault back then, and it is certainly not your fault now, looking at her history. It is inspiring that you have decided to utilize your unwanted experience to help other people and actualize a career in pediatric oncology. Your grandma would have been proud of you.
AITAH for telling my dads wife I don’t care that she has cancer and thinking she’s lying? ONE YEAR UPDATE.
