A woman admits she told her autistic sister to “mask more” after a frustrating birthday celebration. The 36-year-old says her 30-year-old sister has always been demanding and entitled, and while her later autism diagnosis explained some behaviors, it didn’t excuse her rudeness. During the birthday, her sister opened presents without thanks, complained about gifts, and refused dinner—until she saw her friends, when her mood completely changed to cheerful and polite.
Feeling hurt, the older sister confronted her afterward, saying it was painful to watch her act nicely to friends but treat family badly. When her sister defended herself, saying she didn’t need to “mask” around family, the woman replied that if the “real her” meant being cruel, maybe masking wasn’t so bad. Their mother and sister called her insensitive, but she insists she was only being honest about the difference between boundaries and disrespect.
AITAH for telling my autistic sister that she should mask more?
