What you’re doing is healthy and responsible. You’re already stepping up by covering groceries and utilities, which are shared essentials. Your “fun money” isn’t selfish; it’s your personal budget for small joys and self-care, and it’s totally fair to keep that boundary. Relationships are about support, not sacrifice of self. You’re helping him through a tough time, but that doesn’t mean you have to erase every part of your independence or financial autonomy.
His reaction likely comes from frustration or embarrassment about his situation, not pure greed, but that still doesn’t make it okay to guilt you. You’re being generous and fair. He should recognize that instead of trying to make you feel bad for having a bit of balance in your life.
AITAH for not wanting to share my ‘fun money’ with my boyfriend even though he’s broke right now?
