You’re NTA. You missed your girlfriend’s aunt’s funeral for a genuinely compassionate and urgent reason — your family needed you. Your brother was clearly in crisis, your mom was overwhelmed, and you stepped up in the most loving way possible. That’s not flakiness or indifference; that’s being a good son and brother. You even told your girlfriend ahead of time, and it’s not as if the aunt was her mother or someone you were personally close to. Expecting you to abandon your family in that situation just to attend the funeral feels unreasonable and self-centered.
As for the breakup — yes, it came soon after a loss, but her reaction exposed a lack of empathy and respect for your priorities. She not only dismissed your family’s struggles but also badmouthed you to her friends and your mother, showing zero understanding. You didn’t end things because she was grieving — you ended them because she showed you who she was when things got hard. That’s fair. So no, you’re not the asshole — you made a tough but justified decision.
AITAH for not attending my girlfriend’s aunt’s funeral and breaking up with her within days of her aunts funeral.
