You weren’t calling anyone bad names — you were actually describing yourself in a way that’s simply neutral for you. Throughout much of the world, “fat” is not a moral indictment or an insult; it’s simply a physical descriptor, akin to “tall” or “short.” Jamie’s response probably has more to do with how politically charged that word is in American culture, but it doesn’t mean you have to erase your own comfort with your body language to make her feel better about hers.
You made it clear that you weren’t insulting or comparing anyone’s bodies. If Jamie is uncomfortable hearing you refer to yourself as “fat,” that’s something she can unpack — but it isn’t at all fair of her to ask you to censor how you talk about your own body.
AITA for telling my American friend I will NOT stop referring to myself as being fat ?
