You are not responsible for tracking your ex-wife’s child support payments; that obligation falls on her legally and financially, not on you. You established an automated system that directly deposits into your children’s savings account, which is indeed a sensible and fair arrangement. If her employer ceased deducting the funds or an issue arose, she ought to have maintained oversight of her own responsibilities.
Her attempt to depict you as the villain now, while the state imposed consequences automatically, is merely her projecting blame. You didn’t report her, nor did you seek punishment — the system acted as it typically does when someone fails to pay. Your mother’s remark likely stems from a desire to maintain harmony, but this isn’t about malice. You’re not required to oversee your ex’s finances, especially when the funds are for the kids and you’re already handling it responsibly.
AITA for not telling my kids mom she was behind on support?
